Bah, nonsense. What you call "winter weight" many women would kill for. Many people, including myself put on that extra few pounds over the winter. Best not to stress over it. I don't think anyone is complaining about your pictures lol.
As an individual that over-thinks, I actually think stress is connotative of motivation. Stating this, I have over-stressed myself before, which eventually leads to first my body breaking down (physical illness resultant from stress) than my mind (I am currently on an academic break due to burn-out in conjunction with several other circumstantial issues that accrued).
So, perhaps it is not the most sustainable form of motivation. However, would the opposite (i.e., stress free, or acceptance) not make one complacent? In my psych education all I have found to the mystery of motivation has been stress.
Feel free not to respond to this if you wish not to. This is me thinking out loud with the mild hopes someone has answers.
I'd respond by saying none of us have the answers. Those that claim they do are usually trying to sell something.
You state your point very well, but I think motivation from stress isn't all it's cracked up to be. A child dying from hunger in Ethiopia is facing tremendous pressure to change his or her circumstances and yet most likely cannot. They may be motivated, but their motivation does not help them. I too have found that stress as a form of motivation is flawed.
Most people tend to be motivated by pleasantries. Coping mechanisms such as alcohol, smoking, drugs and sex are sought because they satiate desires. Even if they are not particularly healthy, they still provide some sort of pleasantry. So i'd argue, counter to your points, that it is actually pleasure that motivates us.
In my experiences, being very analytical and self critical, stress can be life threatening. So does not serve much of a motivator beyond ridding ones self of the discomfort. That's my take on it anyway.
It's nice to encounter someone with your... shall we say way with words. And not just the pretty face. LOL.
Thank you for that eye-opening response. I never read anything unless I intend to absorb it & seeing a longer-than-usual post may take me a bit of time to get around to, so my apologies regarding the late response.
Perhaps I am an individual that thrives off of negativity, I am not sure. I can see your point very clearly, & perhaps this is what explains why we are such social beings. However, what about the celibate monks that are said to have gone beyond the "self" to a point of nirvana? Perhaps they have overcome the human condition to be motivated by something more? They seem to derive a sense of satisfaction out of suffering, they starve & sustain themselves from life's luxuries not for the shake of any deity either. It is an interesting premise, no?
No worries. We all have lives away from the computer. Even though some pretend not to lol.
I don't personally believe one can thrive on negativity without there being some sort of neurological issue underneath it. On the surface human and animal instincts are simple. We seek comfort. That's it. Satiate a human or an animal and they will find themselves, invariably at rest. However, this doesn't last long as we also seek stimulation because the brain grows bored. My struggles have shown me thus that we all have similar motivations.
You may believe you thrive off negativity, but perhaps it is the negativity that feeds your ego? I don't mean that in an offensive way. But in a manner than many people tend to project today. That we must be tough and hard and so on because their view of the world is one of hardship and struggle. That to survive we must be strong. But this, I believe, is a mask that hides the deeper meaning they seek.
When we are alone, I don't think we seek to project that sense of hardship and dread. Instead we seek happiness, freedom, safety, contentment. So you see those are all generally positive things. We cannot even live without positivity. For our life cycle is one of consumption. We must consume to remain living. It is an additive process. A balancing act. In that balance we find life. Where that balance is tilted we can be lead to death. Realize that the negative process (physically) is one of ultimately death. To take away from life until death is the outcome of negativity. From birth we grow. An additive process. Cell by cell, atom by atom. We grow. Until you become you, and I become I, so we live.
Even my words are additive. With each word you read you can intake my perspective. The opposite of this is silence. No transmission. No words. So if it is truly negativity you seek to thrive on, I honestly believe you have fooled yourself by attempting to convince yourself that you must use negative processes to seek contentment? I struggle to make sense of this. To some degree we all project this outwardly because it feeds our confidence. "I am strong because I can overcome negative things, therefore negative things feed me." This again, is an additive process. See where i'm going here? All life, from nothing is additive, constructive and therefore positive.
You use monks in your response. That they lead life via suffering. I don't believe this is the case. From what limited understanding I do have of them, they seek simplicity and balance. To rid the mind of its chatter and nonsense. To give focus to what is important. They meditate a lot, and that's what they are known for. But there are a great many artistic endeavors they partake in as well such as Sand Madala or Sand Wheels. Through intensive focus and patience, they make these things. Knowing they are not destined to last. As sand is by nature mobile and unsettled. So their work will change. They accept that. Like the flows of the wind. Therefore their minds, like the wind, are mobile and that is the beauty I feel they know. That they can take in and be at peace with all things. Bad or good.
I could go on but I figure that's enough for now. LOL. I don't mean to come off like I know what i'm talking about as these are simply my observations, you're free to disagree or agree or perhaps see me as the fool I occasionally think myself as. You seem like quite an intelligent lady, and I really love meetings of the minds. It's rare these days, but can be so fulfilling.
Take care for now and respond if you wish. I really should get back to drawing something... i'm so lazy!